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Online therapy for cultural identity & family · UK-based, available worldwide

Online therapy for
cultural identity and family

A confidential, non-judgemental space to make sense of the pull between family expectations, the culture you carry and the life you are building, in English or Cantonese.

MBACP Registered Member Originally from Hong Kong English & Cantonese £80 per session
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Between two worlds

Carrying more than one set of expectations

Many people move between cultures, languages and sets of expectations: a duty to family that sits alongside your own hopes, one version of yourself at home and another at work, or a life in a new country that feels both freeing and lonely. It can be hard to explain this to people who have not lived it.

Here you do not have to translate yourself. You can speak in English or Cantonese, take your time, and sort out what you want to keep, what you want to change, and how you might hold both.

Cultural identity Family expectations Family challenges Expat & relocation Life transitions Belonging & loneliness Patterns across generations Microaggressions & code-switching

“I look forward to providing my support to you and helping you reflect, connect and grow.”

Roy Lam

What to expect

Simple, straightforward steps

01

Free Consultation

Book a free 15–30 minute call. We’ll talk about what’s brought you here and whether we’re a good fit. No commitment required.

02

Begin Sessions

We meet online via Google Meet, Monday to Friday, 9am–7pm London time, in English or Cantonese. Sessions are 50 minutes, at your own pace.

03

Reflect & Grow

Over time, understand how family and culture have shaped you, and work out what you want to carry forward and what you want to do differently.

My approach

Understanding where you come from

Roy Lam, MBACP registered counsellor and therapist
Roy Lam
MBACP Registered Member

Originally from Hong Kong, I moved to the UK in 2021, so I know something of what it takes to build a life between two places. I have a particular understanding of the cultural pressures many East Asian and immigrant communities face, particularly the tension between family expectations and personal identity.

Bowen’s Family Systems Theory is one of the approaches I draw on, alongside Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy. It looks at how family relationships and patterns across generations shape who we are, which can help when family expectations are at the heart of what you are facing.

I offer sessions in both English and Cantonese. I am a registered member of the BACP (No. 397064) with a Master of Social Sciences in Counselling from the University of Hong Kong.

CBT Emotion-Focused Therapy Bowen Family Systems Integrative Person-Centred

Fees

Transparent, straightforward pricing

Initial Consultation

Free

15–30 minutes • Online via Google Meet

  • No obligation or commitment
  • Discuss what’s brought you here
  • Ask questions about how I work
  • Decide together if we’re a good fit

Individual Therapy

£80

50 minutes • Online via Google Meet

  • Weekly or fortnightly sessions
  • Tailored integrative approach
  • Confidential & non-judgemental
  • Available Mon–Fri, 9am–7pm London time

Couples Therapy

£120

50 minutes • Online via Google Meet

  • For partners facing difficulties
  • Communication & conflict support
  • Integrative, tailored approach
  • Available Mon–Fri, 9am–7pm London time

Payment is taken at the time of booking. You may reschedule or cancel with at least 48 hours’ notice for a full refund. Cancellations made within 48 hours of your appointment are non-refundable.

Further reading

From the therapy room

A young East Asian man by a window, soft light, calm and reflectiveCultural IdentityNavigating the Space Between Family Expectations and Your True SelfRead the article → Life Transitions & Expat LifeThe Hidden Emotional Cost of Moving Abroad: A Guide for ExpatsRead the article → Cultural IdentityAlways On Guard: Code-Switching, Microaggressions and the Hidden Cost to Your Mental HealthRead the article → Relationships & IdentityFamily Estrangement: When Stepping Back Is the Hardest Thing You DoRead the article →

Have a question?

Here are some of the things people ask before getting started.

How does online therapy work?

Sessions take place via Google Meet, a free, easy-to-use video platform. You'll receive a link before each session. All you need is a private space, a stable internet connection, and a device with a camera and microphone. Many clients find online therapy just as effective as in-person, with the added benefit of attending from the comfort of their own home.

What happens in the free consultation?

The free consultation is an informal, no-obligation conversation lasting 15–30 minutes. We'll talk about what's brought you here, what you're hoping to get from therapy, and I'll answer any questions you have about how I work. It's also a chance for you to get a feel for whether we're the right fit. There's no pressure to proceed.

How many sessions will I need?

Every person is different, and there's no fixed number of sessions. Some people find that a focused course of 6–12 sessions is enough to address a specific issue; others prefer longer-term support. We'll review how things are going together and you're free to end or pause at any time. There's no minimum commitment.

Is everything I share confidential?

Yes. Everything you share is treated with the strictest confidence. The only exceptions are rare situations where there is a serious risk of harm to yourself or others. In those cases, I have a professional duty to act. I'll explain the full bounds of confidentiality before we begin working together.

What is your cancellation policy?

Payment is taken at the time of booking. If you need to reschedule or cancel, please give at least 48 hours’ notice and you'll receive a full refund. Cancellations made within 48 hours of your appointment are non-refundable. This policy reflects the value of the time we've set aside together.

Do you work with clients outside the UK?

Yes, I work with clients across the UK and internationally. Sessions are conducted entirely online, so location is no barrier. All fees are charged in GBP. All sessions run Monday to Friday, 9am–7pm London time, so please factor this in when booking from a different time zone. For clients in Hong Kong, that is 4pm–2am during British Summer Time and 5pm–3am for the rest of the year.

Are you a registered therapist?

Yes. I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), membership number 397064. I hold a Master of Social Sciences in Counselling from the University of Hong Kong (2017) and practise in accordance with the BACP Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions.

Book an Appointment

Ready to talk?

Start with a free 15–30 minute consultation: a relaxed, no-obligation conversation to see if we’re the right fit for each other.

Mon – Fri
Availability
9am – 7pm
Hours (London time)
Online
Via Google Meet
£80
Per session
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